The Wedding of Jin Ern & Sarah
by Kel Li
The minute I shook hands and said hello to Jin Ern and Sarah on a early Saturday morning (one of the rare Saturdays that Nigel and his team wasn’t shooting a wedding) I felt immediately at ease as we pulled our chairs closer to the table and had a seat and began ordering our breakfast. They were the type of couple that immediately exudes a warm personality as we continued to chat over a hearty breakfast. We laughed and exchanged personal anecdotes; I stirred my hot Milo and took a big sip of it thoroughly enjoying myself in their company. I knew then, it was going to be a very enjoyable wedding day to be a part of and we couldn’t wait for it.
They shared with us their journey of being in relationship and being in love with each other for the last 7 years and here they are, finally tying the knot and to be man and wife with God as their rock and anchor throughout the rest of their lives together. As Sarah chattered merrily away with us about her plans for her wedding day in terms of decor, I couldn’t help but sneak a peek at Jin Ern, and there he was seated right next to her and was gazing at her with a smile. It was truly the look of content from Jin Ern and then on their wedding day, I saw the same look on Jin Ern’s face as he saw her walking down the aisle mixed with unbelievable bliss and pride.
One of my favourite moments was when he had officially “picked” Sarah from her room and brought her downstairs as the bridal party cheered them on and Jin Ern stood there with his head held high and chest pumped up with THE biggest grin on his face and immense pride that he is blessed enough to have Sarah as his wife as she stood by his side roaring with laughter in the moment.
That was exactly how their wedding day was. It was continuous laughter from the newly wed and their friends filling up the room every moment of the day. Down to the games, the dance, the songs and the singing all the way through, it was one heck of a wedding!
What really touched me amid everything that happened on their wedding day was when Sarah shared during their exchange of vows that Jin Ern had always told her love was a choice and that she never truly comprehended the full meaning of it until recently. It really resonated with me because I’ve always-always lived by that saying.
I’ve always said that love is a choice to my friends. It is an active choice that you have to make to stay in love. You have to choose to love. You have to choose to forgive and forget. You have to choose to remain faithful and you have to choose to learn how to be thankful and be grateful for your partner. And when you stand before God and promise each other to be there for one another till the day you part, you are saying that you choose to stand by them no matter what happens, no matter what version of a person they are or will become, you are saying that you choose to want to be with them until the day you return to God together and until that day happens, you are saying that you choose to be there through the journey as God sharpens, shapes and mould you and it’s a promise that says I want to be the one that sees you in your perfect form in heaven.
Here is an excerpt from one of my favourite Christian marriage articles:
“The Bible does describe love as a feeling. But rather than beginning as a feeling that inspires an action, love is often first an action based on obedience to God that results in a feeling. This explains why the Bible commands husbands to love their wives (Eph. 5:25) and wives to love their husbands (Titus 2:4) rather than commanding them to feel loving. This further explains why the Bible even commands us to love our enemies (Matt. 5:43–47).”
And that really reminded me of how I agree with what Jin Ern says. Because during the down and challenging times, we have to choose to let certain things go. We have to choose to forgive and move on. We also have to choose to have sacrificial compromise for one another. It will never be easy but it will be worth it and when those stormy season comes along, I have no doubt that Jin Ern and Sarah will stand through it hand in hand with God in the middle of their marriage as they learn to continuously love and respect each other as husband and wife and as they journey on to Australia, I wish them nothing but the best and all the happiness in the world.
Watch their Highlight below:
Thank you Jin Ern and Sarah for trusting my team and I with our craft
and vision to express how we experienced your beautiful day through our work.
I am thankful for the opportunity and I hope you both cherish this little film
(and the rest of the collection!) I enjoyed putting together for the many years to come
and would watch it all over again many years down the road to relive your day!
Wishing you both all the happiness and joy in life! God bless! – Nigel and team